Today I am writing about nightmares. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, ''nightmare is a very upsetting or frightening dream.'' It's also ''an extremely unpleasant event or experience or possible event or experience.'' We all have or had nightmares in our life which is normal. But I am not talking about the normal nightmares. I am talking about the nightmares that all rape victims have after they are being raped. As the ratio of rape victims is more in women than men, therefore; I am going to write it based on women.
No one thinks about that. People think that it is over when the rapist is being punished. No, it doesn’t work like that. It’s not that simple. A rape victim doesn’t have a normal life after that trauma. They don’t sleep normally after that horrible incident occurs to them. They have the nightmare of being raped most of the nights of their life till they die. You might be thinking about how I know all this!! Believe it or not, this is a fact, and I know that.
However, rape victims don’t have a normal and happy relationship after that, because they suffer from trust issues. They hate every touch after that. They feel every touch as bad touch. Seeing psychiatrists may help them not to kill themselves, but they never live their lives like before. You have no idea how life changes after that. Despite being the victims, not the criminals, they are the ones who are deprived of their family and society. It seems like it is a big crime they have committed by being raped.
However, rape victims don’t have a normal and happy relationship after that, because they suffer from trust issues. They hate every touch after that. They feel every touch as bad touch. Seeing psychiatrists may help them not to kill themselves, but they never live their lives like before. You have no idea how life changes after that. Despite being the victims, not the criminals, they are the ones who are deprived of their family and society. It seems like it is a big crime they have committed by being raped.
Today I will describe some true events of a rape victim. Suppose her name is Mahek, she is a Bangladeshi girl. She is a rape victim. For the concern of her security, I am not going to the detail about how she was raped. I will only share with you how she is passing her life after the incident. After staying a few days in the hospital after that incident, when she decided to act against them, she had to run away from those criminals so that they cannot kill her to shut her mouth up. She is now far away from the criminals, but her family members are facing numerous threats. She has nightmares every night. Her psychiatrist has given her anti-depressants and sleeping pills. Medicines only help her sleep well but cannot stop the nightmare. The same nightmare almost every night. How her rapist pressed her mouth with his hand so that she could not shout. She was asleep when that human-faced monster got that chance to do it. Since then she thinks every night that she might not have been raped if she wasn’t asleep that day. Therefore, she is afraid of sleeping now. She developed insomnia. Her doctors and psychiatrist are helping her to move on, but what about the nightmares that remind her every day of what she had been through? She has the nightmare of being chased. She tries to save her life by running away in her dream and then wakes up shaken and scared, and then cannot go back to sleep again. Do you still think that rape victims have a normal happy life after that? No, they don’t. So, today all I want to say is, people who are helping the rapists to get away with such a horrible crime, should think 100 times before doing that. Just think about your own sisters and daughters. Could you do the same if Mahek were your sister or daughter??
Moreover, my request to society is to show some respect and generosity to the victims. They don’t want your sympathy. They don’t want you to feel pity for them. Besides, don’t think that just because someone is raped once, therefore they are available to be abused and raped again. Stop giving them everyday nightmares when they are not even sleeping.
Pretty Witch, (10/08/2009)
