If
you were born as a woman in a country like Bangladesh then you must be familiar
with some rules, or obligations, such as; don't do this, you cannot do this, you
are not allowed to do this or that. If you ever questioned 'why' then you must
have answered by saying 'You are a woman!' It starts from the day you
start to understand the commands of others. Your entire life will be passing
with full of 'don'ts' can't, shouldn't, etc. The male figure around you or the
society will always guide you saying where to go and where not to. If you ever
dare to go somewhere you were not supposed to do, you will be told that 'you
shouldn't be here, this place is not for you, 'you are a woman!' I was often
told by some people not to walk with making sounds, because? 'you are a woman!'
I
was told that a woman should walk slowly and softly. The character of a woman
should be like clay so that she can be given a posture the way the male
figure wants. A woman should not have her own choice to do anything. I have a
bad habit of not abiding by some things that I don't believe. If you also have a
habit like me then you might have been forced to get married to a guy, you never
met before. They don't care if you were raped every night by your husband as
you could not love an unknown person so quickly. According to them, your
husband has every right to do whatever he wants to do with you. He can even
beat you up if you become disobedient. You might have been thinking that why do
you have to tolerate all this? The answer is 'You are a woman!' If you have
been raped by some stranger or someone from your family. They will blame you
for that. As if it was you who eagerly wanted to be raped. Some of them with
good hearts will sympathise with your situation but will always avoid your presence.
As if you are someone with some contagious disease. It will be you who will
always have to fight to prove that you were raped, because? 'you are a woman!'
Consequently,
when you will pass through all the trauma, you will be given another surprise
being told that you are not marriage material anymore for someone you may
love because you are not a virgin and after being raped you have become nasty.
You will have to wait till someone comes forward and tells you that he does not
have a problem marrying you. If you wonder, why he is so generous with you
while others are not then he might tell you that he has sympathy for you. If
you believe him and go for it then sooner, you will find the reason for him to
choose to marry you. Yes! he has got some problems; therefore, he was rejected
by all the women he tried with. Then he thought to marry someone who has been
rejected by society already. And then he has got you. If you think
otherwise, then you will know that if it was a man, not you then he would have
been applauded saying to celebrate to become a real man after losing his
virginity. Why? because 'you are a woman!'
I
have learnt that I don't have any say in being a woman. We, women, are like
puppets that also breathe. And we must be thankful to them that they at
least allowed us to breathe. Do you really want to know Why? because 'you are a
woman!'
Pretty
Witch (09/05/2009)
